grief is a form of love and it requires company
2025-04-27 00:36 Note Type: Tags: grief, love
But no-one can grieve alone, inside their head, because that’s not how grief works. Grief is a form of love, and it requires company – it needs to see its reality reflected back to itself from the heart and soul of another human being. Just as love does.
Unrequited grief is as crippling as unrequited love, and it can last a lifetime, because grief is patient. It will wait until you seek out that supportive ‘other’, that mirror – like other childless women. (Yes, there are other ways too, but this has got to be the fastest I’ve found).
I have grieved my childlessness. What was an open wound in my heart is now a scar. And I can live with a scar, risk with a scar, laugh with a scar, dance with a scar, love with a scar. My healing occurred because in April 2011 I started writing about my pain, and women like you from all over the world wrote back, and a dialogue began here on the blog. And I’ve learned that grief is a dialogue, not a monologue.