from intellectual sex to emtional we had it all just not the physical

2025-03-15 10:06 Note Type: ongoing, journal Tags: love, romantic-relationship, first-love, why-did-you-cry, psychology

To start off, let me quote something I read recently in a newsletter called "milk fed" by Caitlyn.

perhaps this is why the idea of intellectual seduction is so intoxicating: it thrives on restraint. a conversation charged with subtext, a letter laden with implication, a gaze held just a second too long—these moments generate their own kind of tension, a pleasure sharpened by denial. the body, paradoxically, becomes most present in its absence. if physical desire burns quickly, intellectual intimacy smolders.

intellectual intimacy smolders

just wow!! what a crazy simple way to describe the feeling.

I love the idea behind smoldering embers. I read another quote somewhere about longing.

Heartworm (a noun a relationship or friendship that you can't get out of your head, which you thought had faded long ago but is still somehow alive and unfinished, like an abandoned campsite whose smoldering embers still have the power to start a forest fire.

John Koenig, The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows